As a family, we have never preferred to blindly follow a single model. In addition to being compatible with our conditions and our outlook on life and being compatible with our child's development process and character, we tried to see whether it was supported by scientific data, or more accurately, whether the proposed behavior had a scientific reality.

In this way, we were able to get the good and the truth in many parenting books, which are defined as very good, while staying away from inappropriate and unrealistic suggestions.

In this way, we have blended our own best recommendations from each parenting model.

For example, the first home we recorded our daughter after visiting the nests was a Montessori-based home with a magnificent large garden and very good physical conditions. But we soon realized that this was the wrong choice. The problem isn't that that home is a Montessori home, it's that we don't feel completely comfortable with the caregivers there, and we think they're just telling us what we want to hear, so they weren't exactly open to us.

Our second choice was a more modest Waldorf home. Although there are some points that we don't like about some rituals, the communication we established with the caregivers and, more importantly, the communication established by our daughter made it clear that we made the right choice.

It is essential for the healthy development of our children to choose nurseries with good-spirited caregivers (I could never get used to saying teachers :) ) who do this job with love rather than following a certain model in choosing a home. Because what a child of that age really needs is not a large garden or an enormous building, but only love and sincere attention. And this is not just our opinion, it is a data revealed by many scientific studies.

In our opinion, each model is very related to the identity of those who proposed these models (Rudolf Steiner, Maria Montessori, etc.) and the spirit of the time it emerged, but it is debatable whether everything these models suggest is true. Therefore, it is very important to take this information and pass it through the scientific test.

So, how should this be done, it may not be easy, but the method we follow as a family is to ask an important question both to ourselves and to those who share the information.

How and why do I know what I think I know? What is the source of my data and what is my evidence? Or how and why do you know what you say you know? What is the source of your data, what is your evidence?

Although asking these questions regularly did not solve the problem radically, it made a significant contribution to our progress on the right path. We have no doubt that it will help you too.